Category: Emotional Healing

No one is with anyone anymore.  It used to be fun watching how people interacted together but those days are gone.  I was watching a lively group of friends exit the same car each was talking or texting, completely ignoring the society surrounding them.  Over and over again it was the same, setting at tables in the restaurant whole families, each member silently tapping away on their cell phones.  Everyone seemed to have something to say just not, apparently, to anyone at their table.

What has amazed me is no one appears offended or embarrassed.  Ignoring present company would seem to be downright rude or at the least in poor taste, unless all in company share an unspoken agreement.  This would seem to be the case.

A single friend beginning a new relationship shared how her date spent the entire evening texting or talking on his cell phone but still expected the rewards of an intimate date.  No connection required. Have we stopped showing up even for the fun stuff?

Life is all about showing up.   How many of us have stopped showing up.  Wherever we are we’re on the cell texting or talking.  Life is happening right in front of us but we miss it because we are looking down.  We are somewhere else.  How boring is it to have someone in your pocket 24\7.  There is nothing new to share when you are side by side breathing the same air.

Maybe I’m old fashioned but I remember how much fun it used to be to have a girl’s night out to catch up.  We’d share the new stuff in our lives.  The words that passed between us were full of life, our facial expressions and tone of voice added depth to our words.  During the evening together an emotional connection was made.  The warmth of that connection stayed in our hearts long after our visit was over.  It’s called making memories.

It has been some time since I sat down with the intent of writing a new thing, allowing the truth in me about my life to flow.  My life has been in flux, many changes and new realizations.  Truth can be painful, the truth about myself is much easier to ignore than embrace.  What is this truth?  Even now as it flows from me the distastefulness of owning this part of me begs leave to be heard.

I’ve been dealing with feelings of depression, anger, and the urgent desire to lash out at… what?  Will I ever allow myself to know what is driving me?  Must I continue blindly on with all this emotional confusion never knowing why?

Both my parents are now dead.  My Father passed a few months ago, my mother nearly 10 years ago.  My initial reaction is good riddance to all the badness they created.  Watching the lives of my siblings, each one so broken, yet they seem so unaware of the evil done to them.  The insidiousness of our parents’ refusal deal with their emotional issues infected each of us. Spending our formative years in constant company with these emotionally sick adults warped our perceptions making what a heathy individual would understand to be atrocious behavior a common place occurrence in our lives.  Our children and grandchildren are showing the twisted brokenness of a soul misused and abused.  Who has done this to these little ones.

The healing that has come into my life over the past 30 years has not been achieved without cost.  The biggest cost has been that of discovering or at least to some degree discovering how deep the rabbit hole of debauchery extends within my family.  I’ve also learned a few things about broken people; as long as they are comfortable in their lives, regardless how broken, they will refuse to change or acknowledge their need for change.  More often than not the pain of life must become overwhelming before we are driven to our knees or to the office of a qualified counselor.

The loss of the intimate ties of family became necessary as my healing journey has emotionally separated me from the people and environment I grew up in.  Conversation topics and daily occurrences that were once common have become unbearably distasteful.   Those who have failed to work on themselves no longer fit in my life. They are missed.

There are no easy answers or fitting tripe replies to smooth over these issues.  The loss is real.  The inability to help is frustrating.  The Serenity prayer so many have used seems fitting here but still of no real help.  Yes, I accept the thing I cannot change.  The wisdom to know the difference came years ago. The only person I can truly affect or change is me.  The changes in my life have served to irritate those who refuse to work on themselves while attracting those who have.

So why the depression and anger?  My life is good, I’ve been so blessed.  The death of my father opened a door to the past allowing a flood of its badness to wash into my life.  I’ve been awash in all the “should haves” and “could have’s”.  Time to let it all go once again, shut the door, and move on.

My healing Journey continues, part of my healing process was done when I shared my story,  Whatever Good May Come. The Book is available as an Audio, Kindle or Paperback copy.

I learned today about the death of a lady I used to know.   I have not spoken to her since I was in California after the death of my mother.  She lived across the street from my childhood home with her six children.  She did the best she could with what she had and it was enough.  Her children have all done well.   They remain a tight knit group.  She can rest in peace knowing her best has proved to be enough.

Do the best you can with what you have, and it will be enough.  This is all any of us can ever do.  We have all made regrettable choices and will likely make a few more before we are done.  The only safeguard against the long term shipwreck of life is emotional honesty.

Own your choices, good bad or just dumb, they are all yours.  Forgive yourself and be willing to extend to other erring mortals this same consideration.  Very few in life are truly evil, most are just ill informed or angry individuals needing our love and pity.

Emotional Honesty is being willing to see all sides of life, not just your own.  This is only possible when one is internally grounded.  This grounding, for me, has come from knowing the one who loves me most knows me best.  Whatever the wind blowing through my life I continue to abide safely because I am loved.  No longer tossed from pillar to post I’m grounded to the unmovable rock of ages.

Overactive bladder is a problem with bladder-storage function that causes a sudden urge to urinate. The urge may be difficult to stop, and overactive bladder may lead to the involuntary loss of urine (incontinence).  Often the bladder spasms are caused because the bladder has become too toxic.  Heavy amounts of bacteria (bacterial Infection) can also contribute to these issues.

If you have an overactive bladder, you may feel embarrassed, isolate yourself, or limit your work and social life. Several years ago I discovered an effective herbal regiment that will control and in many cases clear this condition.

I discovered the value of Lobelia during a road trip with my husband.  My bladder had become very spastic giving me an uncontrollable need to void every 30 minutes or better.  After the fifth or sixth stop I decided to try some lobelia for the spasm.  It worked like a charm, nearly 2 hours passed before I needed to stop again.  The many members who have tried lobelia have all reported quick relief.

Lobelia is an excellent antispasmodic which can calm the bladder spasms.  A good suggested dose is one dropper full by mouth each time you void until the issue has been cleared.  Using Lobelia the bladder will be allowed to fill up properly before the urge to empty is received.

To clear this issue we suggest a week or two on the “Foundational Herbal Infection program” while doing a good Kidney Flush.

Some people will need to repeat The Kidney Flushing Program every few months to maintain heathy bladder function.  Remember it is important to maintain proper hydration if you want a healthy renal system.

Seasons come and go each one moving us toward our future. In the Spring we are drawn outside, we look to the mountains covered with the richness of new life, and are drawn to new heights as we feed on the power surrounding us.

The renewing of Spring flows into the activity of the Summer season. This is the time of year we get things done. The Summer is full of useful activity, these are the days of preparation a time when our powers are strong.

All too soon the days begin to cool down, a hint of coldness drifts into the night air. It is then that the wisdom and beauty of the fall burst into color all around us as nature again draws us into her arms. In the fall we discover beauty in death, a sense of completeness that the work of the summer is over and it is time to rest.

Days become shorter as Winter invites us to come away and rest awhile. Buried in the dark night of W inter we find time for reflection, healing and growth. Amid this time of inactivity can be found the perfection of the yearly round of life. In the cold recesses of the Winter Season is found a place to bury the mistakes of the year that is ending, a place to find forgiveness and to learn to forgive.

It’s time for a new year, a new beginning. We are not who we were last year. We are not who we will be next year. We are each on a road that twists and turns us through the experiences of our lives. At some point our roads have crossed and we have shared a few precious minutes. The words of encouragement that have passed between us have meant the world to me.

Words mean things, they are all we have and if used correctly they can convey, hope, encouragement, and love. On the other hand when we act rashly and without concern for the feelings of others our words can deeply cut and wound the spirits of those we come in contact with.

The Father has filled our lives with so many places to begin again. It is my prayer that this year will be a new beginning for each of you. That this precious time you have been given will not be wasted, left unimproved and barren.

My wish is that each of you will renew with the Spring so your Summer will be fruitful and you Fall full of wisdom and bounty. Then in the Winter your hearts will be warmed as you reflect with satisfaction on a job well done, a life well lived.