Emotional Healing – Page 3

Sticking With It

March 27, 2018September 29, 2026 Dara Dietz

The ability to stick with my good choices; to choose to do the good stuff is the outcome of years of work and healing. The journey of emotional healing I’m on began long before I knew how broken I truly was. My earliest memories are filled with selfish people providing the child before them lessons in selfishness. Seldom and few were the glimpses of honest caring kindness shown during those early years. Looking back with the maturity of a woman who has learned to love and let go I can see the Fathers love surrounding me; holding my little self safely in his care until I was ready for his healing to take place.

Meeting and allowing the love of my husband into my life started the healing phase of my life. It has been over 30 years since this caring man slipped under my defenses and captured my heart. At first I felt uncomfortable; being cared for was a new experience. I had always migrated toward the comfortable toxic relationships I understood. This being prized, wanted and cared for felt foreign and uncomfortable. Long story short I stayed because he was always so kind and truly wanted to be with me. He had done nothing to deserve being hurt. So when he asked me to marry him I said “Yes”.

As the years went by I discovered his love had filled my life like a pair of warm old slippers; always at hand and easy to wear. He was easy to care for and at some point I began to truly love this remarkable person who had given so freely of himself.

After spending ten years learning how to be loved and how to love in return it all fell apart. My life as I knew it was ground to powder. The love that had colored my world teaching me to trust and care was pulled away. My loving husband emotionally crashed and burned. It was only my faith in the Father’s love that allowed us to find each other again and rebuild our life together.

The Father used it all for good. Time and again I have seen him take the most devastating experiences and turn them into the biggest blessings to come into my life. I can honestly say I would not change a thing. I am how I am today because of the Love of my Father and the man he sent to love me.

The back story I have shared was truly to make a point. The effects of the shame that colored my early years followed by the cold selfishness of my young adult life did not vanish when I learned to give and accept love. There were many damaging beliefs I held about myself I needed to face, examine and discard as lies. Beliefs I would never have thought to question if not for the excellent aid of a qualified counselor. Facing myself, owning my past and accepting the best and worst of me was one of the most painful processes in this healing journey.

A valued counselor once explained it this way: “Once the damage is done there are no pain free options to real healing.” After a body part or the emotional life has been broken any true healing will include some pain. To ignore the injury, never touch or deal with it, will mean a lifetime of disability and sadness. The only way to truly be whole again is to work through the pain.

There have been several Herbal Supports I have used over the years to support the process of healing.

Using Cayenne and Lobelia during counseling or when journaling:

Cayenne: Use 1 tsp in juice at beginning of the session to open up. Cayenne works on the emotional life as it does on the physical body; it enhances the ability to let the emotional issues bubble up and process. I found when using Cayenne at the start of any counseling session the process dealing with myself flowed much better.

Lobelia: at the end of the session ½ tsp. Lobelia added directly into the mouth followed with a swallow of juice or water will allow the emotions to settle. When using Lobelia at the end of my counseling I was able to rest for ten minutes then freely go about the rest of my day. All the emotional issues had settled and were processing on the unconscious level where the work of healing is truly done.

NF Formula: This is an excellent aid for emotional stress. It can be used as needed in times of emotional stress or trauma. I’ve seen this formula stop a panic attack in seconds, just ended the drama. Calmness washes over the mind and heart as the nerves are nourished and soothed.

Emotional Healing, Spiritual Healing, Weight Loss

Weight Loss Update 112.5 lbs off

January 24, 2018September 29, 2026 Dara Dietz

jan23.2018 344 lb — Jan 24 2018 112.5 Lbs Off

Friends and members are asking; “What exactly are you doing?” The weight is continuing to dissolve away. It has become obvious that whatever I’m doing is working and working very well. As of this morning 112.5 pounds have melted from my form. Of course I’ve tweaked the plan from the book, “The Obesity Code” to fit my needs.

What exactly am I doing? The answer is simple; I’m following a low carb food program, water fasting and Liver Flushing. I’ve been water fasting three to five days a week since the last week of August 2017. Many feel this is quite dramatic, but the results are very worth the effort. Before forming an opinion for or against this program read the book “The Obesity Code”.

Dara Before pic from 2014 — April 2014 at Top Weight

The Liver Fasting part is where it becomes a bit trickier. I’ve been doing an ELF or Amazing Liver-flush about every other week. The Amazing Liver Flush is very effective and really clears out the waste but is a bit harsh and I can only tolerate one or two a month. What triggers the liver flush is when the weight loss stalls. If I’m going to water fast then I expect to drop some good weight the next day. After struggling through a day of water fasting and running to the bathroom all evening only to not lose or only lose a half pound the next day I know it is time to flush the liver.

Liver Flushing clears the waste from the liver so the liver can effectively process the excess fat out more effectively. Any weight loss program will benefit from regular liver flushing. An example would be this past week. After three days of water fasting I’d only lost a pound. Friday night I did an Amazing liver Flush. Saturday I water fasted as I felt a bit off from the flush.

Sunday morning the scales showed a five pound drop. Sunday I when out to lunch with a friend which likely cost me. Monday – Wed I water fasted and dropped another 2.5 pounds. This makes the total weight loss this week at 7.5 pounds. Anytime what you are doing stops working or fails to work when it is obvious it should then it is time to flush the liver. My problem is I get so tired of all that oil and will put it off for several day instead of getting right on it and clearing the issue quickly.

This is the summary of what is working for me. The emotional work is also a part of this process. I have become emotional for no reason; my sweet husband has been a great support for this process even if he is scratching his head wondering what is wrong with me. It’s all good and then is an end in sight.

Cleansing & Flushing, Emotional Healing, Herbal Healing, Mental

What to Expect During a Good Detox

July 4, 2017September 29, 2026 Dara Dietz

Many people avoid deep cleansing programs because they are unsure what to expect or how to deal with the inevitable results of a good system wide detox. The deep work of cutting lose and removing waste from the body’s tissue can if not supported correctly lay a body out making one feel abominable while the toxins are being processed from the system. Here are a few answers to the question: What to expect and how to deal with the body’s reaction to a good detox program?

Understanding The Healing Crisis

The 5-day Liver or Kidney detox program varies according to intensity of the work being done. Many people engage in a detox program to rid their bodies of toxins, kick start a weight loss plan, improve their skin and digestive system and strengthen their overall energy and health.

The Mild detox program consists of one flush a day while eating a raw food program. Those wanting to dig a bit deeper may do a Moderate Cleansing Program which consists of three flushes a day while doing a five day juice fast. The Full Strength Liver Flush consists of doing an ELF daily or as often as tolerated along with a juice fasting food program.

All the possible good resulting from a decent detox program has yet to be proven by the scientific community. Those of us who have repeatedly used these flushing programs need no further proof than the benefit seen and felt in our own bodies. Even so, while cleansing may improve skin tone and cleanse the body, the detox program can, if not properly supported, have its fair share of side effects. These symptoms often occur in response to the body’s efforts to remove toxic waste from the colon, liver, arteries and brain.

Headaches

Headaches are a common side effect of an unsupported detox program. There are several reasons for this detoxing back-lash.

The most common reason is toxic blood, which happens when the immune system is unable to deal with the die-off created. Simply put, Die-off is the toxic waste being processed from the lower levels of the body which the immune cells need to attach and neutralize before the waste can be processed from the body by the kidney’s or liver.

Using an Ounce a day of Echinacea at least 4 days each week when doing a detox program will ensure there are enough immune cells to do the work needed. When there are not enough immune cells to attach each bit of waste being processed out the body must then reabsorbed the waste the immune system is unable to deal with. This is when the feeling of being over toxic takes hold in the body.

Another reason Headaches can occur is due to stiffness in the neck and shoulder muscles, a common area for toxin buildup. Using the M&L Salve to quickly relax any tight muscles in the head and neck will clear a muscle tension headache in minutes.

Digestive Issues

Common digestive side effects of a good detox include can include bloating, cramping, flatulence, nausea and diarrhea. Upset in the upper digestive track can be quickly eliminated by using 1 tsp. each Digestive Tonic & LP Formula. The LBF #2 Formula will quickly tighten the bowels back up when diarrhea is an issue.

Nausea can occur during a detox program when the lymph glands release toxins at such a fast rate that the liver must manage the excess, which gets emitted with bile into the stomach. Use your detox tea freely to aid the liver in the work it must do. The body will flush better when you remember to drink plenty of tea and juices. The fluid will aid the liver and kidneys in their work of flushing toxins from the body through the urine and feces.

Emotional Side Effects

You may undergo a gamut of emotions; anxiety, irritability and depression are common emotional disturbances of a good detox. The detox is not only physical but also emotional and spiritual. Supporting the physical body will also support the emotional issues needing to be processed. Do the emotional work as it bubbles to the surface it will be worth the effort.

Skin Imbalances

The skin is a major eliminatory organ. When the liver is in need of a quick disposal for waste it is unable to move out through normal channels it will vicariously process the toxins out through the skin. Keeping the bowels open and the liver flushed will prevent any rash-like symptoms from appearing. If the skin begins to break down during an intense detox program it is time to step back and do an ELF, flush the liver through so it can continue to process the waste out through the bowels.

Fatigue

The first few days of a juice fast will often result in a feeling of fatigue. The body is working hard to eliminate waste, energy reserves are depleted. Supplement your body by increasing your intake of Superfood, Super-kelp and fruit juices.

Weight Loss and Gain

Weight lost on a detox short detox is simply water weight, and will be gained back shortly after the detox diet is completed. For those wanting to hold the weight loss we suggest you continue with a good weight loss program, I like to recommend “Weight Watchers” points program. IT is an excellent healthy way to drop excess weight.

Emotional Healing, Spiritual Healing

Loved, Blessed and Surrounded

June 29, 2017 Dara Dietz

There is so much to be thankful for. This has been a fantastic week. The humidity has felt low and the sun has been out all week. Almost makes me feel like I still live in California instead of North Carolina.

Riverside California, is where I grew up before moving to the Victorville area with my daughter in the early 1980’s. It did not take long for me to fall in love with the dry heat, wide open landscape and quiet of the area. All the reasons that drew me to the desert are now gone, with the exception of the dry heat.

The last time we ventured out there was December 2002. Victorville had become so congested we were in a stand still traffic jam on Bear Valley Road. My husband and I were both shocked and saddened by the over population of the area. The open spacious natural beauty I remembered had been replaced by rows of same looking houses.

Looking out my window today I see trees everywhere. Moving from the wide open spaces of the Mojave Desert to the woodlands of North Carolina has taught me to appreciate a different type of solitude. Where once the expansive views were as far as the eye could see in all directions now the beauty is blossoming at my feet. The lush green foliage unfolds in the early spring continuing to grow throughout the hot days of summer providing a cool carpet for my barefoot walks in the cool of the day.

The small woodland creatures and song birds visiting our yard and deck continue to provide hours of entertainment. The feeling of contentment and peace pervade this place. Our Father continues to shelter us surrounding our lives with his presence and protection. We are truly blessed.

Emotional Healing, My Opinion

Life’s Surprises

November 28, 2016September 2, 2020 Dara Dietz

sun-drenched Life is full of surprises, some good, others not so great. Living well is the ability to pass through today and into tomorrow with dignity and grace. Ensuring an excellent tomorrow depends on how well we embrace today’s revealed lessons. Life is all about choices, choosing to be other focused; choosing to accept the result of a poor choice; choosing to make better choices as past errors in judgment gifts us with their lessons.

The understanding of life shifts as experience expands the mind repainting the narrow misconceptions of childhood with the broader strokes of maturity. Each of us begins life completely self-focused, unable to see beyond our own needs and feelings. The value of others is taught by experiences. Each interaction writes deeply into the softness of a child. Every look, action and tone is soaked up by the little sponges.

The lack of maturity along with the self-focused slant to a child’s personality makes one prone to misinterpret experiences. Evaluating the values leaned as a child, making sure they still make sense is difficult. Often it is not until our life ceases to work; when we are finally forced to ask the question that we discover all the false assumptions we accepted as truth when but a child.

Forgiving past errors in judgment along with the downright bad choices can be a slow process. Learning to live life with eyes wide open is a part of the healing process. A willingness to see the hard things is a sign of maturity.

Understanding that living well requires maturity to view life through the eyes of love, allowing growth will take time and mistakes are only chances to grow. Choosing to stay other focused knowing our choices affect for good or evil all those within our sphere of influence.

Emotional Healing, My Opinion

Thanksgiving my Way

November 21, 2016November 27, 2024 Dara Dietz

100_0376 Every year my husband and I seem to do Thanksgiving a bit different. Growing up it was all about the food, something I take no joy in and find hard to justify. Don’t get me wrong I love good food, what I don’t love is too much at one time. My idea of a great meal is one scrumptious dish prepared to perfection and enjoyed slowly. Each year we decide what delectable treat will be our Thanksgiving meal, buy all the ingredients and enjoy our own company preparing the dish.

The second part of the holiday is the weekend project. Four whole days to ourselves to fill in any way we please, this alone is heaven. Several years ago we spent the entire holiday weekend redecoration our movie room. My husband is a puzzle lover so we decided to paint the walls with huge puzzle pieces. It actually turned out quite well. Over the past 32 years my idea of the perfect day has not changed much. Perfection is being wrapped up in a warm cozy blanket with the one who has filled my life with every good thing since the day we feel in step together and oh yes, good food and a good book.

Emotional Healing, My Opinion

Continuing Well

August 8, 2016 Dara Dietz

barefoot My best intentions are always easy to follow at the start of the day when my vitality levels are high, my emotional love cup full. As the day wears on my best intentions can ebb right along with my emotional energies. The ability to choose well when feeling drained is where the emotional rubber meets the road. So let’s talk about how to set ourselves up to succeed. How do we avoid the emotional trap of diving into old familiar patterns when the heart and mind are too tired to do more?

Remove temptation out of reach before it becomes a problem. Know yourself; set yourself up to win during the strong times. Clear the kitchen, clean out the closets, and make a standing date with a friend to do any activity you know you will not do alone. Find a trustworthy friend to be accountable to.

Pain is an excellent motivator. There is nothing better than a painful condition or experience to induce even the biggest skeptic to face up to life and implement some much needed changes. The real issue is often not the getting started but the continuing on. We often hold back just enough to keep out options open, one eye looking back while trying to venture into something new and unknown.

Moving on and winning at this thing called life often means cutting loose people, places, and things that prevent growth. Personal experience has taught there is no way around this process, the gaping whole created in the life will take time to fill. Letting go of what is not working is the only way to enable a place in your life for something better and new to grow.

Emotional Healing, My Opinion, Spiritual Healing

A Few Final Thoughts on Cleansing

August 8, 2016 Dara Dietz

Echinacea in the sun When beginning any healing or detoxing program the benefits will only come if the waste can be removed and healing nutrition brought in. The largest elimination organ is our colon. If this avenue of elimination is not open and producing well all the good you are doing is for naught. The waste will be reabsorbed as it sets in a sluggish backed up bowel waiting to be eliminated from the body.

The healing and detoxing of the body need not be a negative experience. Many people are hesitant to begin a good detox because they cannot afford to be sick or don’t want to feel bad. Detoxing can produce flu like symptoms when the waste that should be eliminated is reabsorbed. Feeling bad is not necessary, when the immune system is supported with proper nutrition and enough Echinacea the waste is neutralized and eliminated, not reabsorbed.

It’s all good. With proper nutritional and emotional support the healing of the body, mind and heart can be an uplifting fulfilling time. Healing is not so much about the diseased condition as it is about unblocking life on every level, while flooding the body, mind, and soul with healing, restorative nutrients. Take the opportunity to get real with yourself. You are a physical, Emotional and Spiritual child of God, as the physical body begins to heal there will be a corresponding clearing of old issues from your emotional and Spiritual life.

Everyone will have their share of pain in this life. The hard times are not here to destroy us, but to enable us to grow. As we choose to meet life’s challenges, we develop real worth and depth of character. When we choose to turn about and squarely face our own personal demons, we inevitably discover how powerful a single choice can be. The power of choice is the gift Jesus died to give each of us. The journey of 1,000 miles begins with one step. The power to overcome on every level and rise above every weakness begins with one choice. When you choose to embrace life’s trials, you are choosing to attend classes designed specifically for you. Now, instead of being a victim, you are choosing to expand and grow psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Brain, Nerves & Sleep, Emotional Healing, Herbal Healing, My Opinion

Emotional First Aid

May 30, 2016October 2, 2026 Dara Dietz

Most associate the idea of “first aid” with stopping the flow of blood and or preventing shock after an accident. I’d like to put out the idea of emotional first aid. Knowing how to assist someone facing an unexpected loss or change of circumstances can be as important as supporting physical injuries. Facing a life altering event alone can crush the physical life of nearly anyone. An understanding friend standing silently by our side during times of crisis is a gift of inexpressible worth. Nature has also provided several herbs to support as well as heal the physical and emotional nervous system. The combination known as The “NF” formula (Nerve Food) is an excellent support in times of extreme stress as well as supporting the healing process during the long journey back to emotional health.

The General Nervine formula is not only an excellent sleep aid but when given during the day in lower dosages can be used for emotional crisis management. I have seen firsthand how this formula will allow the mind to process the changes while keeping the emotions from cascading out of control. The sting of loss will come to all of us at some point. Pain when embraced as a teacher can uplift and ennoble as the heart and mind find the inner strength to rise above and move on. The discovery, the gift, is that you are more for having passed through the fire.

For the nerve food formula, with the herbs, proportions and how to make it, see Food for a Frayed Nervous System.

Emotional Healing, My Opinion

Living Wide Open

May 30, 2016 Dara Dietz

All of life must be grown into. Emotional and Mental muscles must be developed and strengthened through use. We call them habits but what is a habit really. It is the development through use of an emotional or mental ability.

We choose to accept the gift of care from another. In return we have learned how it feels to be cared for. The choice is now available to choose to bestow the care you enjoyed on someone else. The process sounds so simple, something we do every day. Yet how many have grown up in homes where no one had a concern for them or offered them a caring thought. A Child now an adult has yet to experience their first caring act.

I want to live unafraid with my heart wide open. I want to see the beauty in everyone with eyes wide open and filled with understanding. I hold out my hands to the world filled with all the good they can hold. If I fail to do all the good I can by closing myself off to those around me my ability to do good will atrophy and die. Unable to love, feel or live I rust. Just as arms and legs must move to maintain strength so my heart and mind must receive love and give love or they too will degenerate, losing the ability to love.

We cheat ourselves from so much good through fear of being short changed or used. So what! Bring it on! Living life means you will experience the bad right along with the good. The Father know exactly what experiences are needed by each of us.

Fearing someone will misuse or abuse the love I hold in an open hand to the world is not living well. Choosing to do my best for each person regardless how they accept or reject my good intentions, this is living well. I will pass this way but once. My intention is to do good, to bless, to bring healing to the broken. The outcome I choose to leave with my Father.